You Can Find Me Here: Make Some Lemonade and Carry On

This past week, I was speaking with one of my clients, who I particularly enjoy working with, about a search that I have been working on with/for her and how these are the ones {searches} I really like. The ones that are a challenge. The needle in the haystack, so to speak. And she replied, "well I'm glad you're able to make lemonade." It took me a second, but I got it. It came so out of context, but that's one of the things I appreciate about this client - she talks to me like we've known each other for years - where you can say things out of context because you know the other person will pick up on it - and it doesn't feel like work when I'm working with her.

My point being, she was right. I do know how to make lemonade. When shit gets really heavy - at work, in life, whenever - I think that one thing I really am good at, is figuring out how to resolve it/work around it/live with it and move on. I can make some good f#@+%*g lemonade.

When someone takes you so completely off guard with the words that come out of their mouth, and how quickly they do, I think it's only natural to take it in, let it process, then react, and try to carry on in the best way you know how. I am not perfect and I have certainly made my fair share of mistakes - but I'd like to think that I have learned from them. And what I have learned most, is to think, take into consideration the person's feelings on the receiving end, and then speak or act. Think about what you are going to say or do, and then speak or act.

For me, shit got heavy on Thursday night, and I honestly didn't know how to take in what was being said to me or even how to react because it came on so suddenly and, in my opinion, in the worst manner.basically.ever. Communication 101: Back to the Basics - Good news, bad news - In person is ALWAYS best.

Normally when things get really shitty, I would do just about everything I could to distract myself - going out, "having fun", surrounding myself with as many people/things as possible and trying to forget about what it is I am trying to distract myself from. This time was different - all I wanted was quiet and to be in my own home in my own space with no distractions. So that is just what I did. I was able to take it all in and process the reality of what has happened over the past month or so and what has happened in the past 36 hours of my life. In doing this, I definitely realize that the situation at hand is not the worst {or best} thing that has ever happened to me. Sad - yes. Disappointing - yes, yes. Tragic - no. People come in and out of your life, and I think the only thing to do is to learn something from them and your experience with them.

As I mentioned in my initial post, life is a trip. And it sure is living up to its expectations. I'd like to think I have a pretty realistic perspective on life and a solid ability to roll with whatever is given to me...and make the most of it. I'll make lemonade.

The main ingredients of a really awesome lemonade are all of the things that make me happy and, essentially are huge parts of who I am. So in lieu of this, I thought I'd share some of these really fantastic and awesome ingredients as a reminder that things are never as bad as they seem.

These are my lemons...